Actually sometimes the opposite is true.
There's a philosophy prevalent in our culture of "never give up" or "die trying" mentality.
But some of the most successful people in the world are ones who knew when to hold 'em and knew when to fold 'em. These people are adept at realizing when they should hang in there trying and when it's time to jump a sinking ship.
Most of us have struggled with this balance, whether it was a relationship, business venture, employment or even a belief system. Our nature to second guess ourselves doesn't help bring clarity to this dilemma either.
So how do we bring clarity when we find ourselves in this difficult place?
1. Get Back To Your Center
Use what works to return to your center - meditate, run, breathe, hike, EFT, etc.
2. Continue With #1 - Don't Rush
When we desire change, it's easy to jump the gun. Spend some time in your center. The longer you are there, the clearer your decision will be (even if you don't know what that is yet) and the less likely you will be to second guess yourself later or be riddled with guilt.
3. Revisit Your Original Vision
What was your original vision? Write it down and look at it. Whether it's qualities you're seeking in a relationship or an original business plan or a belief system. What happens when you view it? Does it excite you? Make you feel alive? Then spend some time with this and see what emerges. Spend everyday looking at this (again, don't rush - you didn't get into this dilemma overnight and unless there is a deadline looming, you can afford to marinate in your vision)
4. Revise
If you feel lackluster after spending some time with your original vision, it may be time to revise your goal. Start penning your new goals until you feel energized and enthusiastic.
5. Return to #1
Spend some time in your center again. After any time spent re-energizing your Vision/Goal, it's time to return to center. Most people skip this step, we like the feeling of being re-energized (for some people it's even addictive). Coming back to your center is the needed balance in the process. You'll be less likely to take missteps towards your vision.
6. Make Changes
We usually want to make changes after step one or two. However, if we follow all the steps above we will be in the best place cognitively and emotionally to change our actions to meet our original vision or to actually change our vision (and therefore our actions)
Aloha from Maui,
John
